You Never Forget Your First: A Biography of George Washington

You Never Forget Your First: A Biography of George Washington

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AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
AN NPR CONCIERGE BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR

“In her form-shattering and myth-crushing book…。Coe examines myths with mirth, and writes history with humor… [You Never Forget Your First] is an accessible look at a president who always finishes in the first ranks of our leaders。” —Boston Globe


Alexis Coe takes a closer look at our first—and finds he is not quite the man we remember


Young George Washington was raised by a struggling single mother, demanded military promotions, caused an international incident, and never backed down—even when his dysentery got so bad he had to ride with a cushion on his saddle。 But after he married Martha, everything changed。 Washington became the kind of man who named his dog Sweetlips and hated to leave home。 He took up arms against the British only when there was no other way, though he lost more battles than he won。

After an unlikely victory in the Revolutionary War cast him as the nation's hero, he was desperate to retire, but the founders pressured him into the presidency—twice。 When he retired years later, no one talked him out of it。 He left the highest office heartbroken over the partisan nightmare his backstabbing cabinet had created。

Back on his plantation, the man who fought for liberty must confront his greatest hypocrisy—what to do with the men, women, and children he owns—before he succumbs to death。

With irresistible style and warm humor, You Never Forget Your First combines rigorous research and lively storytelling that will have readers—including those who thought presidential biographies were just for dads—inhaling every page。

Editor Reviews

As [Coe] illustrates, most of what we do know is either untrue…or less interesting than what the existing history books have overlooked…She has cleverly disguised a historiographical intervention in the form of a sometimes cheeky presidential biography…She demonstrates that just because more conventional presidential biographies sometimes approach the length of the Bible…that doesn't mean they are an infallible or unfiltered record of events。 History, this book argues, is always an interpretation of the past and an argument about what it means。

The New York Times Book Review - Tatiana Schlossberg

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Chapter 1

His Mother's Son

When it came to family, Mary Ball Washington, George Washington's mother, was always unlucky。 Her father died when she was an infant。 By the time she turned twelve, she had buried her stepfather, her half brother, and her mother。 Mary's two surviving siblings, although grown and married, did not take her in; instead, she became the legal ward of a neighbor。

Her life immediately got worse。 The man who had worked for her late family as an overseer successfully sued her for back wages, and Mary, as a girl in early America, would have little opportunity to recover the financial loss。 For her, everything depended on marrying well, just as it had for her mother, who had come to America as an indentured servant。

In 1731, at the age of twenty-three, Mary found a promising match。 Augustine Washington, an educated widower fourteen years her senior, was a justice of the peace who owned a small tobacco farm, and an increasing number of slaves。

The details of their twelve-year marriage are scant, but one thing is for sure: It produced six children, whom they raised at Ferry Farm, a modest enterprise outside of Fredericksburg, Virginia。 George was their first, followed by Betty, Samuel, John Augustine, and Charles Washington。 (Their youngest daughter, Mildred, died at sixteen months old。) They lived in a two-story house that looked out on the Rappahannock River and slave quarters, rough wooden structures that housed about twenty people of African descent。 The tobacco-drying sheds, the dairy barn, the smokehouse, and Mary's vegetable and medicinal herb gardens lay beyond。

Mary's husband and stepsons had attended the prestigious Appleby Grammar School in England, and she planned to send her own sons there, too, no doubt with dreams of social advancement in mind。 Mary had never left Virginia, but her sons would see the motherland。

And then, in 1743, her husband died。 Augustine was buried with his first wife, a sign of things to come for Mary and her five children。 His sons from his first marriage, Lawrence, twenty-five, and Augustine, Jr。, twenty-three, inherited the bulk of the estate-including Mount Vernon。 Lawrence gifted his stepmother a mourning ring, but neither he nor his brother had any legal obligation to her。 Mary and her five children were left to manage Ferry Farm on their own。 George was never going to Appleby。

Mary, now thirty-five, took up the job of maintaining a property that legally belonged to her eleven-year-old son。 Having learned at an early age how it felt to be powerless, she started off decisively, selling off some of the family's best tracts。 The corn, flax, wheat, oat, rye, vegetables, and tobacco grown on the remaining land would have to be enough to feed and support her family, the people she enslaved, and her farm animals。 With great luck and even better weather, there might be a big enough yield to sell in Great Britain。

Unfortunately for Mary, the years that followed were recorded as dry。 She managed to scrape together enough to sell abroad, but that was only half the battle。 British merchants had a monopoly on trade, and they couldn't be depended on to deal fairly。 Their terms stated that no sale was final until the product reached Great Britain。 This allowed them to accuse American farmers, and they often did, of including inferior crops, especially with small operations。 When Mary tried to sell her tobacco, she was twice accused-and twice vindicated。 By the 1760s, she had decided the enterprise wasn't worth the trouble。

And throughout all this struggle, Mary's efforts, past immediate survival, offered her no long-term guarantees。 At the age of twenty-one, Washington would inherit the entirety of Ferry Farm。 But that was it。 Augustine had made no provisions in his will to educate his younger sons, abroad or at home。 Soon, Washington would have to drop out of a local school。 He would spend the rest of his life trying to catch up。

Mary could have remarried。 It was such a commonplace practice, in fact, that Augustine's will anticipated it。 A new husband would have offered her some degree of financial security and, presuming she was lonely, companionship, even love。 And Mary was a catch: She had a home, however temporary, and a hearty constitution。 But Mary wasn't eager to submit to a new husband's demands。 (Perhaps she had learned a lesson from her own mother's second marriage。 Tellingly, her eldest son would later come to the defense of remarried widows, against husbands who illegally withheld their wives' property。) Instead, she poured her energy into the farm and her children, especially George and Betty。

Mary remained strategically close to her stepsons。 Lawrence, who was ten years her junior, had come back from Appleby with the entitlement and ambition of a colonizer, not of a man born in the colonies。 With a commission from King George II, he had served as a captain in the War of Jenkins' Ear, fighting the Spanish in the West Indies。 Lawrence returned the summer after his father died and immediately capitalized on his recent inheritance and glamorous war experience by marrying exceptionally well。 Ann Fairfax, daughter of Colonel William Fairfax, lived at Belvoir, the grand estate bordering Lawrence's Mount Vernon。 She offered him entry into what was arguably the colony's most powerful family。

Mary made sure that Washington was a frequent visitor at Mount Vernon, and thus also at Belvoir, where he could observe elite masculinity up close。 Washington supplemented his fieldwork by studying Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation, a sixteenth-century book on etiquette。 He likely copied down all 110 lessons merely to work on his penmanship, but what he managed to absorb didn't hurt his reputation among the gentry。

The Abridged Rules of Civility 

 

2  When in Company, put not your Hands to any Part of the Body, not usualy Discovered。

 

7  Put not off your Cloths in the presence of Others, nor go out your Chambers half Drest。

 

24  Do not laugh too loud or too much at any Publick [Spectacle]。

 

54  Play not the Peacock, looking every where about you, to See if you be well Deck't, if your Shoes fit well if your Stockings sit neatly, and Cloths handsomely。

 

56  Associate yourself with Men of good Quality if you Esteem your own Reputation; for 'tis better to be alone than in bad Company。

 

73  Think before you Speak pronounce not imperfectly nor bring ou[t] your Words too hastily but orderly & distinctly。

 

82  Undertake not what you cannot Perform but be Carefull to keep your Promise。

 

90  Being Set at meal Scratch not neither Spit Cough or blow your Nose except there's a Necessity for it。

 

92  Take no Salt or cut Bread with your Knife Greasy。

 

100  Cleanse not your teeth with the Table Cloth Napkin Fork or Knife but if Others do it let it be done wt。 a Pick Tooth。

 

Washington understood his role。 He moved with seeming ease between the sometimes desperate conditions of Ferry Farm and the genteel abundance of Mount Vernon。 On one occasion, however, he could not make the two-day ride to visit Lawrence because there wasn't enough corn to feed his horse。 According to Washington, the animal was "in very poor order," a startling admission in Virginia, where men who traveled even the shortest distances on foot were understood to be poor。 If the animals were hungry, then the future president and his family-and most of all, their slaves-were likely suffering, too。

 

The masters of Mount Vernon and Belvoir knew that Washington was not one of them, but they recognized that he was a quick study。 His eagerness to be helped no doubt flattered their egos, and he became a kind of pet project。 They decided that he was in need of travel and adventure, and that the only way to get it was by sea。 But since Washington could not pay his own way, they concluded he would have to join the British Royal Navy as a midshipman。 They then launched an almost conspiratorial campaign to achieve their goal。

Mary Washington was no fool。 At first, she seemed open to the idea of Washington's enlistment in the navy, but it didn't take long for her to realize she was being set up。 She had learned in her youth to view the world with a critical eye, and in her time running a small farm, that eye had sharpened。 Would Washington really find opportunity at sea? Was it better than what he would find at home? And what were the risks to her fourteen-year-old son?

Mary had good reason to believe they were great。 Lawrence's own letters home from service had been full of tales of disease, deprivation, and death。 His brother-in-law had lost his life in a naval battle with the French。 And both had been officers; Washington would be a midshipman, one of the lowest-ranking, subjugated positions on a vessel。 (As it happens, her instincts were right。 Of the recruits who joined the navy at Washington's age, about a third did not survive their first two years in the navy-and there was little chance of promotion before then。)

It seems Mary tried to discuss these concerns with Lawrence's co-conspirators, but they had no patience for them。 Robert Jackson, the executor of her late husband's will, dismissed them as "trifling objections such as fond and unthinking mothers naturally suggest。"

Others, however, agreed with her。 Joseph Ball, Mary's half brother in England, thought the whole thing was a terrible idea:

I think he had better be put apprentice to a tinker, for a common sailor before the mast has by no means the common liberty of the subject; for they will press him from ship to ship where he has fifty shillings a month, and make him take twenty-three, and cut and slash and use him like a negro, or rather like a dog。

And with that, the matter was settled。 Whether Mary handed down her decision or she reached it in consultation with her son, we'll never know。 But in the aftermath, no one seemed at odds over it。 Washington visited Mount Vernon just as often, and Lawrence called on Joseph Ball the next time he went to England。 He even brought back presents for Mary。

If  Washington had ever truly wanted to become a midshipman, his interest was probably less about the experience than the twenty-three shillings a month he would have earned。 The situation at Ferry Farm was increasingly dire。 "With much truth I can say, I never felt the want of money so sensibly since I was a boy of 15 years old," he would later write。 But his mother wouldn't sacrifice him to the navy, no matter how bad things got。

Mary's children stayed at home with her until there was a good reason for them to leave。 In 1750, Washington gave away his sister, Betty, age seventeen, to Fielding Lewis, the son of a respectable merchant in town。 Like her mother and grandmother, she pushed the boundaries of wifehood in early America: Her mark and signature can be found alongside her husband's on business transactions, from land purchases to tobacco shipments。

Washington, meanwhile, was becoming Mary's business partner more than her child。 An appetite for land ran in his father's family, a side he seemed eager to emulate, and so Mary encouraged him to become a surveyor。 The job attracted young men precisely because it offered upward mobility; a surveyor might earn a hundred pounds annually, and he was first on the scene, able to buy the choicest properties for himself。 The profession suited Washington's personality: He liked the outdoors, he was good at math, and he could use his father's surveying tools。 (He later brought some of those tools on his presidential tours of the northern and southern states。)

Lawrence and the Fairfaxes were supportive, too。 They hired Washington to look after their western holdings, allowing him to skip a long apprenticeship。 They also talked him up among the local gentry。 By age seventeen, he was the surveyor of Culpeper County, the youngest ever hired, and by eighteen he had purchased thousands of acres of land in the Shenandoah Valley。 Thanks to him, there was finally steady money coming in at Ferry Farm。

Chapter 2

"Pleases My Taste"

While Washington was thriving, his half brother was failing。 Lawrence's misfortunes began in 1749 with a cough so bad that he had to sail to England for medical care。 It was tuberculosis, which only worsened during the trip。 Nor did his illness improve the following year when he traveled to the spa town of Warm Springs, Virginia, to bathe in its reputedly restorative waters。 Facing another long, frigid Virginia winter, during which he would most likely be quarantined from his wife, who had just given birth to a baby girl and had already lost three newborns, Lawrence set his sights on the Caribbean。

He chose to risk hurricane season in the West Indies in hopes that a few warm months of rest and relaxation in Barbados would help。 He invited Washington, who had never been outside of Virginia, and together they boarded the Success, a small trading ship。 For six weeks, Washington distracted himself from the "fickle & Merciless Ocean" by recording the weather and by fishing for barracuda, mahi mahi, and shark。 (He rarely caught anything。) Finally, at four o'clock in the morning on November 2, 1751, they arrived in Barbados, a diminutive land mass that had become the economic and political hub of the British Empire。

The nineteen-year-old Washington was immediately taken with the flora and fauna。 He sampled avocados, guavas, and pineapples for the first time, writing "[N]one pleases my taste as dos the Pine。" But he was most interested in the people-though not the enslaved Africans who were brought there in chains to grow and harvest sugar。 "[A] Man of oppulent fortune And infamous Charactar was indicted for committing a rape on his servant Maid," he reported, "and was brought in Guiltless and sav'd by one single Evidence。" Washington watched the "not overzealously beloved" governor in action and dined with the island's elite。 They invited him to their "Beefsteak and Tripe Club," where he met judges and admirals and listened to the concerns of wealthy merchants and commodores。 It was a far more diverse and worldly set of men than Lawrence knew back home。

Washington hardly mentions Lawrence, then thirty-four, who was usually too weak to leave his quarters。 Soon enough, illness came for Washington, too。 "Was strongly attacked with the small Pox," he wrote in his diary on November 16, 1751。 Although he emerged with some scarring on his face, he also acquired the gift of immunity。 Smallpox was rare in the Colonies, and his resistance to the virus would serve him well during the Revolution。

Washington recovered quickly。 Lawrence did not。 In late December 1751, they parted ways in Barbados。 Lawrence boarded a ship for Bermuda, and Washington headed home on the Industry。 He spent nearly the entire trip seasick and was at one point robbed by a fellow passenger, but he was a changed man。 He had survived a great illness and traveled what would ultimately be the farthest distance of his life。

When Washington returned home, he delivered letters from the gentry of Barbados to Robert Dinwiddie, the British governor of Virginia, who welcomed him with a dinner invitation。 He seemed to finally feel like a person of distinction, confident enough of his prospects to court one wealthy, unattainable young woman after another。 When Elizabeth Fauntleroy rejected him, he wrote to her father, who owned a considerable amount of land, seeking a visit with "Miss Betcy, in hopes of a revocation of the former, cruel sentence and see if I can meet with any alteration in my favor。" During a visit to Belvoir, Washington wrote to a friend that he'd flirted with George Fairfax's sister-in-law, Mary Cary。 She's "a very agreeable Young Lady," he said, but one who "revives my former Passion for your Low Land Beauty。" (The identity of the Low Land Beauty has never been confirmed。) If Miss Betcy's wary father wrote back, Washington did not keep the letter-but it is safe to assume that Fauntleroy, a member of the Richmond elite, was uninterested in a young man of no fortune or great estate。

Reviews

gmcootie

Very interesting look at George Washington’s life from a different point of view。 Makes him more of a relatable man instead of the superior creature most of history makes him out to be。 Easy to read, full of interesting facts and statistics and glimpses into some of his not-so-nice behavior and beliefs。

Ashley

It's a brief biography but insightful。 Coe removes all the patriarchal and whitewashed aspects of his story which is refreshing。 Coe summarizes other Washington biographies and compares and contrasts different views of Washington over time。 It's definitely a good read! It's a brief biography but insightful。 Coe removes all the patriarchal and whitewashed aspects of his story which is refreshing。 Coe summarizes other Washington biographies and compares and contrasts different views of Washington over time。 It's definitely a good read! 。。。more

Laura Foster

I loved what author Alexis Coe had to say in the beginning of this book about how nearly every biography of George Washington and his early American successors is written by a white male and nearly always exaggerates just a bit their subject's impeccable everything (character, physique, whatever)。 The viewpoint of a female author and one not afraid to address Washington's shortcomings made this book unique, but ultimately, I went back and forth between being interested and bored in this one, par I loved what author Alexis Coe had to say in the beginning of this book about how nearly every biography of George Washington and his early American successors is written by a white male and nearly always exaggerates just a bit their subject's impeccable everything (character, physique, whatever)。 The viewpoint of a female author and one not afraid to address Washington's shortcomings made this book unique, but ultimately, I went back and forth between being interested and bored in this one, particularly when trying to keep track of all of those Revolutionary War players。 Overall, just okay for me。 。。。more

Sandra Bradley

A short but interesting book for those of us who do not need a detailed life story of the first president。 I found it to be an easy read and easy to follow that kept my interest。 Worth reading particularly for a Canadian with a limited interest in a detailed account of his entire history。

Callie Johnston

Hadn't had much interest in a Washington biography before, but this came up on NPR book concierge, so hopped on it。 Alexis basically does a lit review of all other Washington bios (and there have been many) and points out that it's a white male point of view。。。 always。 Not much said about Washington's mom, Martha, or the many many people he enslaved over his lifetime。 That tends to get glossed over in favor of his legacy, but it's more complicated than that。 I appreciate her wider lens on his li Hadn't had much interest in a Washington biography before, but this came up on NPR book concierge, so hopped on it。 Alexis basically does a lit review of all other Washington bios (and there have been many) and points out that it's a white male point of view。。。 always。 Not much said about Washington's mom, Martha, or the many many people he enslaved over his lifetime。 That tends to get glossed over in favor of his legacy, but it's more complicated than that。 I appreciate her wider lens on his life and the quirky use of charts to give high level information about his battles, etc。 which have been covered ad nauseum in other sources。 。。。more

Kim

An excellent biography— meticulously researched and truly engaging。 Coe goes beyond the Washington we thought we knew and were maybe content to keep on a distant, dusty pedestal。 Evidence that scholarly doesn’t have to mean dry。 Thanks, Alicia Abdul, for putting this one on my radar!

Rachel Beeler

2。5

Adrienne

Short and sweet。 An interesting, concise biography of George Washington filled with tidbits of information I had not heard。 For a military leader, Washington actually lost more battles than he won。 What made him a great general was his ability to use spies to feed him tactical information。 There's lots more about his true realtionships with the other founders, like Jefferson, Adams, Hamilton, Monroe and Madison。 The other thing that struck me was how sickly he was through his lifetime。 He surviv Short and sweet。 An interesting, concise biography of George Washington filled with tidbits of information I had not heard。 For a military leader, Washington actually lost more battles than he won。 What made him a great general was his ability to use spies to feed him tactical information。 There's lots more about his true realtionships with the other founders, like Jefferson, Adams, Hamilton, Monroe and Madison。 The other thing that struck me was how sickly he was through his lifetime。 He survived every major illness of the time, including smallpox and dysentery。 Amazing。I would recommend this one to all history buffs out there。 4 stars。 。。。more

Emily Nelms Chastain

Wonderful, just wonderful! It’s so refreshing to see a more objective perspective coming from a female writer who leans into the possibility that Washington had flaws。

Jordan

To be honest, I've never read another full biography of George Washington。 Yet still his presence looms large。 That said, I can't directly compare the two, but I appreciated this new perspective on the man who has become a kind of infamous and lionized and romantic figure in American history。 Coe's introduction, about her curiosity around Washington, and especially around all of the male biographers' obsession with his virility。。。just yikes, my dudes。 The point that it didn't seem to matter to t To be honest, I've never read another full biography of George Washington。 Yet still his presence looms large。 That said, I can't directly compare the two, but I appreciated this new perspective on the man who has become a kind of infamous and lionized and romantic figure in American history。 Coe's introduction, about her curiosity around Washington, and especially around all of the male biographers' obsession with his virility。。。just yikes, my dudes。 The point that it didn't seem to matter to the people around Washington at the time so why should it matter to us was well taken。 While this was not an exhaustive biography, that's not what I was looking for。 Exploring the intricacies of his personal relationships and how they directed his life, as well as not dragging him but not pulling any punches around Washington's slave owning, were the perfect match for me。 Again, not having read another full biography, perhaps some of these are common texts, but there were a couple of points where I got a little teary at the personal correspondence。 While those were obviously not Coe's writing, her artful construction around them and the contextual relevance, made them more impactful。I listened to this on audiobook, and though the narrator was great, there were a couple of points where Coe used charts, lists, facts all at once that didn't translate well to an audio medium。 Not necessarily a point for or against, just something to consider if you're looking to read the audio。Coe is co-presenting a program at my workplace with Anna North (author of Outlawed), thinking about new perspectives on "old" stories, and it was a lovely coincidence that this was available on Overdrive in advance of that。 I'm very much looking forward to their conversation。 。。。more

Amethyst Jones

Much of American history has been told about men, by men, and for men and often idealizes the founding fathers。 You Never Forget Your First is funny, informative, and the first adult biography on Washington by a woman in 40+ years (even longer by a historian) - one of just a few written by women amongst hundreds。 Coe cuts through other biographer’s obsession Washington’s “manliness”。 It offers a fresh, myth-busting, well-researched, entertaining look into the first POTUS’ life。 She has a balance Much of American history has been told about men, by men, and for men and often idealizes the founding fathers。 You Never Forget Your First is funny, informative, and the first adult biography on Washington by a woman in 40+ years (even longer by a historian) - one of just a few written by women amongst hundreds。 Coe cuts through other biographer’s obsession Washington’s “manliness”。 It offers a fresh, myth-busting, well-researched, entertaining look into the first POTUS’ life。 She has a balanced way of acknowledging the merits of his celebrity without shying away from Washington’s pettiness or his enslavement of others。 。。。more

Arianna

What a breath of fresh air it is to read a completely succinct, non-stuffy, presidential biography! I am really hoping this author does a whole series。 It’s extremely accessible, and also full of serious history that doesn’t gloss over, but rather delves into, the tough stuff。 I particularly enjoyed the distillation of important events and essential history into tables and charts。 I particularly enjoyed the chart that included Washington’s annotations on James Monroe’s book。 It was hilarious!

Jenny

This is a good overview of Washington’s life and his personality。 I like that she skipped most of the battles from the Revolution and focused more on his spy ring。 If you want an overview of Washington, this is a good book to read。

Kirk Shimano

I absolutely adored the opening chapter of this book。 I enjoyed the take down of the standard George Washington narrative and found the author's voice to be hugely entertaining。As it settled into the main history, though, I felt like it become something a bit different。 I can't really blame the author - it might not be that rewarding to spend a whole book in a meta criticism of how others have told the story, instead of engaging in the story on its own。 But the fact that I'm not really prone to I absolutely adored the opening chapter of this book。 I enjoyed the take down of the standard George Washington narrative and found the author's voice to be hugely entertaining。As it settled into the main history, though, I felt like it become something a bit different。 I can't really blame the author - it might not be that rewarding to spend a whole book in a meta criticism of how others have told the story, instead of engaging in the story on its own。 But the fact that I'm not really prone to pick up a history of George Washington maybe made me a bit less enthralled when this became。。。a history of George Washington。In the end, I was glad for the journey, and I think the author takes special care to highlight some of the figures in George Washington's orbit who might get short shrift elsewhere。 It's definitely given me more to think about George Washington than the grammar school picture I was largely working off before。 。。。more

Dana

You Never Forget Your First had a catchy title, a clever introduction, and an absolutely fresh way to tell about the life of our first President, George Washington。 I’ve actually been wanting to read a book on every President, so why not get started? If you want a quick and smart biography, and oh yeah, want to support a female writer, this is the book for you。 This started out with a strong prologue where author Alexis Coe informed the reader she is the only female to ever write a biography on You Never Forget Your First had a catchy title, a clever introduction, and an absolutely fresh way to tell about the life of our first President, George Washington。 I’ve actually been wanting to read a book on every President, so why not get started? If you want a quick and smart biography, and oh yeah, want to support a female writer, this is the book for you。 This started out with a strong prologue where author Alexis Coe informed the reader she is the only female to ever write a biography on Washington。 The first few pages were smart and packed with fun facts about Washington’s teeth, hemp crop, wool production, and cherry tree tale。 What I realized soon after starting this is that there is a lot of information that can be discussed when discussing Washington。 Just the task of determining what to focus on is huge。 It was obvious that Coe did a ton of research to write this。At times, this had a little too much emphasis on big picture rather than on Washington’s thoughts and actions as President。 Also, I didn’t quite get why he was chosen as America’s general other than his bravery in one or two small battles。 I wished his personality and reputation had been given a little more attention。 I was amazed at how factual this was, while still being written in a way that made this easy to read。 (When was the last time you thought that about a presidential biography?) I liked this, but expected the tone in the cheeky introduction to be more prominent throughout the book。 。。。more

Ruth

Coe is very conscious of writing from a female point of view。 Full of lists and quotes, it's not a dry read。 Since there's so much talk of the nation's founding now, I was happy to get this point of view。 It seems we have always had lies and serious division and to realize is somewhat of a backside comfort given the divisive situation in our country today。 I feel like the lack here is that details are Coe's strong suit to the occasional overlooking of the big picture。 When did that war end anywa Coe is very conscious of writing from a female point of view。 Full of lists and quotes, it's not a dry read。 Since there's so much talk of the nation's founding now, I was happy to get this point of view。 It seems we have always had lies and serious division and to realize is somewhat of a backside comfort given the divisive situation in our country today。 I feel like the lack here is that details are Coe's strong suit to the occasional overlooking of the big picture。 When did that war end anyway? :-] 。。。more

Molly

More biographies like this please!

Marie Horning

Excellent as an audiobook。 THIS is how I want to learn about my presidents。 It was funny and engaging。 Very readable。 I've read a lot about George Washington, and while he's still my historical presidential crush, this book doesn't idolize him like many of the others。 He's imperfect and more humanized, although still pretty impressive。 Alexis Coe describes him as having swagger。 And while he's always remembered for his military battles, he also affected the war as a genius political strategist a Excellent as an audiobook。 THIS is how I want to learn about my presidents。 It was funny and engaging。 Very readable。 I've read a lot about George Washington, and while he's still my historical presidential crush, this book doesn't idolize him like many of the others。 He's imperfect and more humanized, although still pretty impressive。 Alexis Coe describes him as having swagger。 And while he's always remembered for his military battles, he also affected the war as a genius political strategist and spymaster。 I liked how the author modernized the way the information was presented。 She began with what sounded like a dating profile of George Washington。 Likes, Dislikes, etc。 Super fun。 I also really appreciated the attention paid to his slaves, and William Lee, in particular。 The last book I read, 1776, gave Billy Lee maybe a sentence or two even though he was a huge part of Washington's life。 This one gave him his due。 。。。more

Christy

You Never Forget Your First - a book title that is not what you may think it is about。 It is, in fact, a biography of our first president。 This is the first biography I have read of George Washington though I did go visit Mount Vernon a few years ago。 I listened to the audio of this book which was not great, mainly because there were so many lists and that is really boring to listen to。 It was a pretty decent overview of Washington but I realized it was not really a subject that I was passionate You Never Forget Your First - a book title that is not what you may think it is about。 It is, in fact, a biography of our first president。 This is the first biography I have read of George Washington though I did go visit Mount Vernon a few years ago。 I listened to the audio of this book which was not great, mainly because there were so many lists and that is really boring to listen to。 It was a pretty decent overview of Washington but I realized it was not really a subject that I was passionate about。 。。。more

Phlu

Short engaging fresh and humanizing。 It’s always a pleasure to read a book that doesn’t try to either brush over or sermonize exceedingly。 That steers the conversation but let’s the reader reflect and arrive to conclusions。 There were many instances where the author tried and succeeded to take us back to a time where the society rules and expectations were very different and even though many of the human relationships’ dynamics are the same we must remember to be in the shoes of the 18th century Short engaging fresh and humanizing。 It’s always a pleasure to read a book that doesn’t try to either brush over or sermonize exceedingly。 That steers the conversation but let’s the reader reflect and arrive to conclusions。 There were many instances where the author tried and succeeded to take us back to a time where the society rules and expectations were very different and even though many of the human relationships’ dynamics are the same we must remember to be in the shoes of the 18th century colony turned independent nation before putting our 21st century glasses。 Addressing slavery head on was another strong aspect of the book。 I wish we lingered and discussed more on the “Indian problem”。 There was a lot happening during these times at the frontier。 Maybe a future book :) also an immersive experience on how the east coast developed, the elite and the Washington power structure。 。。。more

Allyson Ferrari

The good things about this book centers on the fact that it differs wildly from any other biography of the Founding Fathers, who the author lovingly calls "thigh men。" I loved that she spent more time detailing Washington outside of his military prowess and spent time on his domestic life, specifically around his actions as a slave owner。 This period of American history is just not that interesting to me so I think that's where my middle of the road enjoyment and rating comes from。 But if you ar The good things about this book centers on the fact that it differs wildly from any other biography of the Founding Fathers, who the author lovingly calls "thigh men。" I loved that she spent more time detailing Washington outside of his military prowess and spent time on his domestic life, specifically around his actions as a slave owner。 This period of American history is just not that interesting to me so I think that's where my middle of the road enjoyment and rating comes from。 But if you are a fan of Washington or any of the Founding Fathers, perhaps you'll enjoy。 。。。more

Gina Terada

Can biographies be fun? This one is! I laughed out loud several times at the quotes from letters, descriptions of 1700s medicine and critics wit Alexis Coe deals out in this biography。 I’ve never been a biography person, especially presidential ones, but Coe takes a long hard look at Washington’s letters and the thoughts and lives of those around him that I think offers a interesting take in a very crowded field。 Especially the focus given by Coe to correct the record on the women in Washington’ Can biographies be fun? This one is! I laughed out loud several times at the quotes from letters, descriptions of 1700s medicine and critics wit Alexis Coe deals out in this biography。 I’ve never been a biography person, especially presidential ones, but Coe takes a long hard look at Washington’s letters and the thoughts and lives of those around him that I think offers a interesting take in a very crowded field。 Especially the focus given by Coe to correct the record on the women in Washington’s life and the harsh realities that slavery played in his presidency and wealth as a land owner are a particular breath of fresh air! 。。。more

Katie

3。5。 I really liked the way this was written, but I just do not find biographies about the Founding Fathers to really be that gripping (which is strange, given what I'm interested in… but whatever)。 It's definitely worth a read though! 3。5。 I really liked the way this was written, but I just do not find biographies about the Founding Fathers to really be that gripping (which is strange, given what I'm interested in… but whatever)。 It's definitely worth a read though! 。。。more

H。

It’s more like People magazine of history books, but it hits the main points。 Coe does her best to follow in Sarah Vowell’s steps with some elements of success, but Vowel’s works offer a bit more passion on the subject’s matter。 Still, it’s quick。

Isabel

This was a fascinating easy to follow biography of America's first President。 I really enjoyed seeing it from a woman's perspective (Coe is the first female Washington biographer in abt 100 years!) There was so much I learned about Washington (that was definitely not taught in school!)。 Perfect for readers just getting into biographies or learning about the history of America。 (However if you're looking for a more in-depth look, especially when it comes to the American Revolution this may not be This was a fascinating easy to follow biography of America's first President。 I really enjoyed seeing it from a woman's perspective (Coe is the first female Washington biographer in abt 100 years!) There was so much I learned about Washington (that was definitely not taught in school!)。 Perfect for readers just getting into biographies or learning about the history of America。 (However if you're looking for a more in-depth look, especially when it comes to the American Revolution this may not be the book for you) I also agree with others that while she took a strong stance against the myths of Washington, she also perpetuated this multiple times, and she was a bit biased, I still enjoyed learning about Washington though。 。。。more

Elise

I picked this up after reading one of Ms Coe's essays, and found it an engaging read。 She uses many tactics to make the sometimes dry and stodgy subject of George Washington accessible and focuses on some of the lesser known details of his life。 For example, she limits the discussion of Revolutionary War battles to a table summarizing the date, location and outcome of each battle while spending an entire chapter on the spy ring and codes used to get intelligence about British troop movements。Rai I picked this up after reading one of Ms Coe's essays, and found it an engaging read。 She uses many tactics to make the sometimes dry and stodgy subject of George Washington accessible and focuses on some of the lesser known details of his life。 For example, she limits the discussion of Revolutionary War battles to a table summarizing the date, location and outcome of each battle while spending an entire chapter on the spy ring and codes used to get intelligence about British troop movements。Raised by a single mother and looked down on by the wealthy elites, Washington was ambitious, determined to marry well and better himself。 He used his job as a land surveyor to purchase choice parcels kwhen he died he owned more than 50000 acres)。 He served in the French and Indian war, and in the months before the start of the Revolutionary war he purposely made extensive social calls wearing his old uniform, so that when a commander in chief was appointed, he seemed like the logical choice to all。Although a successful general and widely admired, Washington did not relish the politics of the presidency。 He did establish many crucial norms to the somewhat vaguely defined constitutional role of the president。 He had a personal copy of the document where he wrote notes in the margins about which jobs were his。 He came to the Senate to get advice on an Indian treaty, and when no one stepped forward, he negotiated it within the executive branch and brought it back for the consent。 He accepted a second term with reluctance and resented the tactics that Jefferson and his party of Democratic-Republicans used to undermine his decisions and policies。Ms Coe does not shy away from more controversial subjects, such as his acts as a slave holder。 The most telling comment for me was her redefinition of a plantation as a 'forced labor camp'。 He was known to have beaten slaves, and advertised for the return of some who ran away。 He paid money to some slaves for their teeth to make dentures for himself。 Although he technically freed his slaves in his will, it was not to be implemented until Martha died, and she declined to free her own slaves which resulted in families being split apart due to intermarriage between the slaves belonging to each。 Martha was reportedly afraid of his slaves after his death, feeling they had a vested interest in her death。The book is extensively footnoted for those who wish for more information on any particular event。 Washington is important in our history, and had many admirable accomplishments, but he was no saint。 。。。more

Noah

Not setting out to copy or expound on the billion-page mega-bios the likes of Chernow writes - she even pokes those bios a bit while admitting that they are great works - Alexis Coe seeks to refresh Washington’s life with a different perspective。There are fun and sometimes cheeky asides throughout, but even those are designed with the same purpose as the rest of her book: to dispel long-held and perpetuated myths; to highlight what we and other historians often willfully glaze over; to help pain Not setting out to copy or expound on the billion-page mega-bios the likes of Chernow writes - she even pokes those bios a bit while admitting that they are great works - Alexis Coe seeks to refresh Washington’s life with a different perspective。There are fun and sometimes cheeky asides throughout, but even those are designed with the same purpose as the rest of her book: to dispel long-held and perpetuated myths; to highlight what we and other historians often willfully glaze over; to help paint Washington not as a victim of the social mores of the times in which he lived, but a real driving force。 And on that, I enjoyed it。 I remember 3 family trips in 2019 (because no one went anywhere in 2020): Monticello; Montpelier: and Mount Vernon。 Two of those embraced critical information - especially about slavery - and one did not but in only the most wave-of-the-hand fashion: Mount Vernon。 This isn’t some invective, though。 Coe clearly enjoys and reveres her subject。 It’s the honest light in which she portrays him that’s the proof。 Coe’s book is short on pages but high on *relevant* detail, which in and of itself is refreshing。 Perhaps future, deeper dives into our First will be equally honest。 That’s what books like Coe’s do: help refocus a narrative that can grow from there。 Fun, informative, and fresh! 。。。more

Kelly

Thanks to netgalley, entertaining read

Kaitlin K

I often find myself complaining that history isn’t taught with the nuance that is required to explain actual human beings。 People are sainted or are monsters, and there is no in- between。 This book is aiming for profiling a person, not a fairytale。 It feels like it could be much, much longer, and I think it loses something by skipping large swaths of time, but I really liked it。 I am adding it to my list to send my teenaged nieces。

Evan Reyes

I had never read a presidential biography before this one。 It was billed as some kind of transgressive, feminist, revisionist history, but other than an introduction that criticizes Chernow and the "thigh men," it seems like a pretty straightforward biography。 It's also incredibly lightweight for what I imagine a presidential biography should be。 Entire wars and years are reduced to single, short paragraphs, and overall it feels like Washington is sort of a character in this history that is unfo I had never read a presidential biography before this one。 It was billed as some kind of transgressive, feminist, revisionist history, but other than an introduction that criticizes Chernow and the "thigh men," it seems like a pretty straightforward biography。 It's also incredibly lightweight for what I imagine a presidential biography should be。 Entire wars and years are reduced to single, short paragraphs, and overall it feels like Washington is sort of a character in this history that is unfolding, rather than the main focus。There are flippant and contemporary flourishes that are super cringey, like Washington's "list of frenemies," but this tone is not used consistently。 It's used early on, but never really after that, and it left me confused as to whether this is supposed to be a hip, playful biography, or just a shorter version of a "normal" biography without the thigh stuff。 Overrated。 。。。more

Lauren Sasine

I was more compelled by the premise of this book - the first history of America’s first president written by a female historian - than the book itself。 The argument in the introduction that this would kick those official biographers and male history buffs off their high horses, and show the real Washington, never really materialized for me。 It seemed to be at its best a less romanticized history of Washington’s life and choices, especially in regard to his money and slaves, and at worst a collec I was more compelled by the premise of this book - the first history of America’s first president written by a female historian - than the book itself。 The argument in the introduction that this would kick those official biographers and male history buffs off their high horses, and show the real Washington, never really materialized for me。 It seemed to be at its best a less romanticized history of Washington’s life and choices, especially in regard to his money and slaves, and at worst a collection of sort of edgy fun facts haphazardly strung together。 。。。more